30 November 2009

Create A Life...The Money Will Follow

"A very good career choice would be to gravitate toward those activities and to embrace those desires that harmonize with your core intentions, which are freedom and growth — and joy. Make a "career" of living a happy life rather than trying to find work that will produce enough income that you can do things with your money that will then make you happy. When feeling happy is of paramount importance to you — and what you do "for a living" makes you happy — you have found the best of all combinations." ~ Abraham-Hicks

When you live out of your deepest desires and passions, there is no more work! You are doing what you were created to do.

"Don't ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive." ~ Howard Thurman

Go out and live!
Coach Carolyn

27 November 2009

Be Grateful

... And speaking of being grateful...

“The store was closed so I went home and hugged what I own.” ~ Brooks Palmer

Don't you just love that?

Coach Carolyn

25 November 2009

Happy Thanksgiving!

Wishing you all a blessed and peaceful day of grace. A little "Jive Turkey" for you to enjoy!

Coach Carolyn

Resentment or Peace of Mind: You Choose

A very timely article from author and teacher Debbie Ford.

After coming back from the Celebrate Your Life conference in Phoenix, I am oh-so-very clear once again that in order to have a life we love, we must deal with our hurt, regrets, resentments and grudges. There is no better time to tackle these than right now given that the holidays and the new year are right around the corner. If you want to have a new year unlike your last one, these are what you've got to face.

In thinking of how I could best support you in taking this on, I decided to share with you two of my favorite paragraphs from my book
Why Good People Do Bad Things.

My favorite spiritual teacher Emmet Fox once said "Our resentments bind us to the person with a cord stronger than steel." Now, would you want to be bound by a cord stronger than steel to the person who has hurt you, betrayed you, lied to you or screwed you over? How stupid would that be? First they rip part of your heart out, and then you give them the rest of it! By clinging to your resentments, you rob yourself of your power, your peace of mind and your ability to create yourself anew. It makes no sense. And just in case you think you are actually hurting the person who wronged you by holding on to your grudges and resentments, let me clue you in. Most of them don't care if you are hurt and angry. It's no skin off their back. In fact, some of the people you are devoting your thoughts, feelings and precious energy to hating are now dead. So now not only do you not have access to all of your power, but you have buried it alive in someone else's grave. Crazy, right?

We hold on to our resentments only when we are still trying to prove that we are right and someone else is wrong. Maybe we're still struggling to change what happened in the past or trying to regain a sense of control over our present circumstances. Maybe we still love the person who hurt us, so we would rather be connected to them in a negative way than not to be connected at all. Or maybe they have now become our excuse for why we are not living the life we want to live, for why we are stuck, or for why we continue to beat ourselves up. These are just a few of the reasons we hold on to our resentments. But no matter what the reason, if we want to move on, to have a life greater than the one we have right now in this moment, we must forgive.

Your Weekly Shadow Work
(1) Keep a list this week of all the ways your resentments stop you, hurt you or keep you tied to the past.
(2) Spend this week becoming present to and making a list of what would be available to you if you gave up the grudge.
(3) Meditate each day on this holy line, "Forgive me my trespasses as I forgive those who trespass against me."

Coach Carolyn

24 November 2009

Change Your Beliefs, Change Your Life

Here is some sound advice on changing your beliefs by Ariane de Bonvoisin of First 30 Days:

If you find yourself stuck in the middle of a change, work on changing any beliefs that might be holding you back. Just as you created your current beliefs, you can replace them with new ones.

1. Write down any negative beliefs about the current change—for example, I'll never get well, I don’t have what it takes to succeed and so on.

2. Imagine that you're sitting with the most optimistic person you know, ready to choose better beliefs about this change. What would they be? Write these down—for example, I'm strong enough to get well, I have what it takes, etc.

3. Put these ideas someplace visible and read them once or twice a day.

Don't be discouraged if your mind resists initially. Research has shown that it takes between 21 and 28 days for something to become a habit. Stick with it, and these new beliefs will eventually become a part of you.

Read more advice on getting through change in Ariane's book, The First 30 Days: Your Guide to Making Any Change Easier.

Coach Carolyn

23 November 2009

Make the Decision

I am participating in Bob Doyle's 45-Day Boundless Living Challenge, for the second time. This time around, I have made the decision to participate fully. Two quotes showed up for Day One and Day Two. Yes, when you make the decision, the universe opens up to give you exactly what you need.

"Do not wait; the time will never be 'just right'. Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along." ~ Napoleon Hill

"Don't let the fear of the time it will take to accomplish something stand in the way of your doing it. The time will pass anyway; we might just as well put that passing time to the best possible use." ~ Earl Nightingale

What are you waiting for the "right time" to begin? Just for today, begin exactly where you are. When you make the decision, whatever you need will show up for you. It's called Divine Timing.

Coach Carolyn

20 November 2009

Have Fun! Have A Party!

I am always looking for ways to empower and be empowered and have fun in the process. As I was writing the blog post on jewelry and happiness, it occurred to me that like so many women, I have a drawer full of odds and ends jewelry. You know, the classic one earring (because you lost the other one in what’s his name’s car), or the tangled chains that you have not found the time and never will find the time to untangle. Before you buy new jewelry, how about getting rid of the old, unused stuff? The price of gold is doing quite well right now. Just a few weeks ago, my friend sold some of her gold oddities and made a nice piece of change. Unexpected cash! Boy, was she happy!

Now for the fun part. How about hosting a Gold Party where women come to your home, or some nice meeting space, and bring their gold odds and ends to sell? Well, I came across Premiere Gold Parties. Imagine that? Premiere Gold Parties is like Tupperware parties on steroids. Tupperware was okay, but whenever you went, you had to buy something. At these Gold Parties, you make the money, not spend it. You agree to host a party and Premiere Gold Parties will do the rest. They will send out the invitations, bring food and drinks, and weigh and pay each person for their gold – all the while having fun! And you as the host get ten percent of everything purchased at your party. Too cool!

This sounds great for stay at home moms and part-timers or someone looking to earn some extra cash, while having fun with the girls! Something to think about… Host A Gold Party. Parties are always fun and life should be about having fun!

Coach Carolyn

Friday's Purposeful Question

“…Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves like locked rooms and like books that are written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions now." ~ Rainer Maria Rilke

"Today, did I let go of resentments and unforgivingness that I have been holding onto, all the while realizing that another person may be wounded too and struggling with their own pain?"

“The quality of our lives depend on the quality of the questions we ask.”

Coach Carolyn

19 November 2009

Make the Choice to Be Happy

As women, we rarely do lovely and loving things just for ourselves. We will do things for everyone else, while neglecting ourselves. Thinking back on this, I remember how I used to buy myself jewelry. Nothing too elaborate, but something pretty, and just for me. I always loved buying earrings because it was an easy way to feel feminine and pretty. As I lost my spinner thumb ring for the second time, I went online to check out rings. I came across a company called Apples of Gold – I love that name – a retailer of fine jewelry.

What I love about Apples of Gold is the simplicity of the site and the jewelry. It’s a very clean site, not cluttered with bobbles and bangles. It was just fun to search through the site, looking at all the items. If you want to be a happier more peaceful person, all you need do is make the decision, and be happier and more peaceful. Do whatever you need to do to make that happen, so long as it will not harm another. Looking at pretty jewelry online made me happy and because I was concentrating on the jewelry, I was not thinking a negative thought. Imagine that?

So, just for today, make a conscious choice to do something for yourself to make yourself happy and filled with peace. Just think what it will also do for those around you.

Choose to be happy,
Coach Carolyn

18 November 2009

Book Reviews: Touched by a Vampire and Thirsty

Without betraying my age, my first introduction to the world of vampires was the Anne Rice book, The Vampire Lestat. At the time, I thought this was nothing if not entertaining. Then I got into the Buffy the Vampire Slayer television shows – when I still watched television. Again, merely entertaining; though slayers are a bit more fascinating. So, when the whole vampire craze re-emerged with the Stephenie Meyer Twilight Series, I was done with the whole vampire scene. Though knowing a bit about the world of vampires, I can see why this series is a huge hit with the younger folks, especially young women. There is something deliciously alluring about vampires; they are forbidden fruit. Personally, I prefer someone who has a mirror image and a bit of a tan, but that’s just me!

It was a concern about young women being drawn into the story of Bella and Edward. After all, young women are desperately looking for mentors and role models. Then I read Touched by a Vampire: Discovering Hidden Messages in the Twilight Saga by Beth Felker Jones. It pulls apart the Twilight Saga and looks at the issues from a Biblical perspective. It was an entrancing read, I couldn’t put the book down.

Touched by a Vampire is the first book to investigate the themes of the Twilight Saga from a Biblical perspective. Some Christian readers have praised moral principles illustrated in the story, such as premarital sexual abstinence, which align with Meyer’s own Mormon beliefs. But ultimately, Felker Jones examines whether the story’s redemptive qualities outshine its darkness. Written for Twilight fans, parents, teachers, and pop culture enthusiasts. Touched by a Vampire includes an overview of the Twilight series for those unfamiliar with the storyline and a discussion guide for small groups. An exceptional read.

Another book to tackle this issue from a Christian perspective is the novel Thirsty by Tracey Bateman. It is the story of Nina, a divorcee dealing with temptations of another, though no less darker kind, alcoholism and dark secrets. Bateman weaves an interesting tale, though I must confess I found myself wanting her to conquer and triumph.

The description leaves you gasping for more:

“Unaware of the darkness stalking her, Nina is confronted with a series of events that threaten to unhinge her sobriety. Her daughter wants to spend time with the parents Nina left behind. A terrifying event that has haunted Nina for almost twenty years begins to surface. And an alluring neighbor initiates an unusual friendship with Nina, but is Markus truly a kindred spirit or a man guarding dangerous secrets?

As everything she loves hangs in the balance, will Nina's feeble grasp on her demons be broken, leaving her powerless against the thirst? The battle between redemption and obsession unfold to its startling, unforgettable end.”

So, though I am not into the vampire culture, both Touched by a Vampire and Thirsty are great reads to give you another side of the dark and sinister.

Both books were provided for review by the WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group.

Delicious reading!
Coach Carolyn

True Forgiveness Leads to Inner Peace

"Inner peace can be reached only when we practice forgiveness. Forgiveness is letting go of the past, and is therefore the means for correcting our misperceptions." ~ Gerald Jampolsky

Forgiveness is not an emotion, it is a decision.

Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself. It is not something you do for someone else.

Forgiveness is an act of the imagination. It dares you to imagine a better future, one that is based on the blessed possibility that your hurt will not be the final word on the matter.

It challenges you to give up your destructive thoughts about the situation and to believe in the possibility of a better future. Forgiveness has little or nothing to do with another person because forgiveness is an inside job.

Forgiveness is not forgetting. It is letting go of the hurt.

True forgiveness is not:
Forgetting. If the hurt wounded you enough to require forgiveness, you may always have a memory of it.
Excusing or condoning. The wrong should not be denied, minimized, or justified.
Reconciling. You can forgive the offender and still choose not to reestablish the relationship.
Weakness. You do not become a doormat or oblivious to cruelty.

“Never forget that to forgive yourself is to release trapped energy that could be doing good work in the world.” ~ D. Patrick Miller

Give yourself the gift of inner peace, forgive someone.

Coach Carolyn

17 November 2009

Be A Diamond...Live With Passion

"When we have passion for life, we shine. There is an ease and effortless quality to us. We are magnets. We have an ability to inspire the people around us and gain support for our ideas. We now are able to see the difference between passion and drama and choose passion at every turn. We are free to express ourselves with the self-assuredness that we are lead by a force that is driven from within rather than our ego. We understand the power of purpose and relish the opportunities to meet life head-on. We invite risk as a vehicle for growth and expansion." ~Rhonda Britten

I could have easily called our community, Becoming a Woman of Passion. But I know that when a woman is truly living her purpose, passion automatically shines through. When we are being who we were created to be, there is a light that radiates from within.

When we are not living with passion or purpose, our demeanor is severely dulled and gray. There is no sparkle, no shimmer, no shine. Just lack-luster. Which are you reaching for?

“Our passions are the winds that propel our vessel. Our reason is the pilot that steers her. Without winds the vessel would not move and without a pilot she would be lost.” ~ Proverb

Sparkle, shimmer and shine!
Coach Carolyn

16 November 2009

Life Lessons from Anne and Francina

From Anne Goodwin's award-winning book, Stay for Lunch, here are just a few of the Life Lessons she learned from Francina ~ with some insights from yours truly.

Life’s a journey. Remember to take notes.

I love this one, as an avid note-taker and journaler. I journey about my journey, my journey of life. Always keep either Post-It Notes or a Moleskine notebook on hand. They are small enough to tuck in a purse or pocket. You never know when you will need to jot down a memory.

Say yes. Participate in life fully.

We say yes to everything else in life that does not serve us. Yet, when it comes to our own lives, we say maybe, or worse, we say no. Try saying YES, and see what happens. Then, jump up and yell, TA-DA!

Accept life’s twists with grace.

We never know what will happen from moment to moment. But I love what Byron Katie says. Life happens for you, not to you. Accept the lessons and the blessings.

Be open. Choose to connect.

I know this is one of those “easier said than done” deals, especially living in New York. One of the things I love about Meetup.com is that it is all about making connections. There is enough isolationism going on, time to grab your smile and go out and meet someone.

Listen to your inner voice. Trust it.

I am a big believer in listening to my intuition, or that still, small voice within. I have denied it far too many times and suffered the consequences. I have honed the skill, yes it is a skill, of listening to that inner voice. It has never led me astray.

Act. Be someone’s angel.

Too often we have the sense to do something for someone – just because we feel like it or we see the need. Then for some reason, we betray that sense and don’t do what we intended. When you have the sense, honor it. Just do it; for no other reason than it’s a kind thing to do.

Choose faith over fear.

Both fear and faith have feelings attached to them. To know the difference, ask yourself which feels most aligned with who you are and which feels forced and anxious. We tend to go against the feeling that most expresses our authenticity because someone will be offended or hurt. Instead, it is you who ends up hurting. Stop denying what your inner most gut is telling you. Just trust it.

To learn more life lessons, visit Anne at Pleasurable Pause Press and purchase her book, Stay for Lunch. A truly lovely read.
Life's filled with lessons and blessings,
Coach Carolyn

15 November 2009

Life Lessons from Two Women of Purpose

The BWP Meetup Community had two, back-to-back, powerful gatherings with two awesome women of purpose and passion.

On Friday the 13th, 13 of us journeyed in the rain to hear author and speaker Marianne Williamson share her thoughts on Spirit of a New World. Hosted by the New York Open Center, our group was invited by the Open Center to join in on this special evening. We even had VIP seating!

Two thoughts I took away from Ms. Marianne: We are in a world where we are constantly tempted to be who we are not. So, who do I need to become? Powerful! This is why I named this community, Becoming a Woman of Purpose. It’s not about finding your “life purpose.” Your life purpose is to love. It’s more about becoming the woman you were created to be in order to fulfill that call to love, in your own unique way. There is no other you at this time. You are it. So, it’s up to you to do you the best way you possibly can.

Marianne was so gracious; she even agreed to take a group photo with us. Yes, we were in the house! Visit Marianne’s website to learn about her happenings.

After a night of powerful messages, we were again rocked and inspired by Anne Goodwin, author of the award-winning book, “Stay For Lunch.” Again, gracious, lovely, as well as truly inspiring. Another rainy evening, 15 women came to learn, share and be inspired by Anne. She shared her Life Lessons learned from her friendship with Francina, a woman fifty years her senior, whom she met when she happened upon her during an auto accident.

The lesson that was most powerful for me was “Say YES and participate in life fully.” This most resonated because I said YES to these two events that came from two strangers via email. I said YES, participated fully, and magic happened. Anne then signed copies of her book, gave gifts of her Angel Cards and donated a portion of her book sales to the Elizabeth Seton Women’s Center. How cool was that? What an inspiration and angel she is!

To purchase Anne’s book, visit her at Pleasurable Pause Press.

In a nutshell, that’s our two magical evenings with women of purpose and passion. What a gift!

I want to give a special shout out to six of our BWP women who came to both events, braving the winds and rains on both evenings. They are symbols of grace, love, and unending spirit and commitment to their journeys. Thank you, Cindy, Clo, Emily, Irma, Lisa, and Sue. You ladies do me so very proud. I love you to pieces!

Still smiling,
Coach Carolyn

13 November 2009

Friday's Purposeful Question

“…Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves like locked rooms and like books that are written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions now." ~ Rainer Maria Rilke

“What decision is your life waiting for you to make?”

“You can tell a woman is clever by her answers. You can tell she is wise by her questions.”

12 November 2009

Decision Making and Emotional Woundedness

“Let’s imagine again that we have a skin disease with wounds that are infected. When we want to heal the skin, and we go to a doctor, the doctor is going to use a scalpel to open the wounds. Then the doctor is going to clean the wounds, apply medicine, and keep the wounds clean until they heal and no longer hurt us.

“To heal the emotional body, we are going to do the same thing. We need to open the wounds and clean the wounds, use some medicine, and keep the wounds clean until they are healed. How are we going to open the wounds? We are going to use the truth as a scalpel to open the wounds. Two thousand years ago, one of the greatest Masters told us, ‘And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.’

“The truth is like a scalpel because it is painful to open our wounds and uncover all of the lies. The wounds in our emotional body are covered by the denial system, the system of lies we have created to protect those wounds. When we look at our wounds with eyes of truth, we can finally heal these wounds.

“You begin by practicing the truth with yourself. When you are truthful with yourself, you start to see everything as it is, not the way you want to see it.”

~ From The Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz

It is difficult to make any decision from a place of emotional woundedness. We must open the wounds, clean the wounds, allow them to heal, then we can make our decisions from a place of emotional purity.

Just for today, at least decide to open one of your emotional wounds. This will lead you to a place of inner healing and greater decision making.

Coach Carolyn

11 November 2009

Make the Decision... Gain Inner Peace

“We achieve inner peace when we have come to a definite decision. Until then, our lives are in the shaky land of what if.” ~ Coach Carolyn

I know when I have reached a decision about something, I immediately breathe a sigh of relief. Why a sigh of relief? Because up until then, I have been living in limbo about whatever it is that I need to decide, and I cannot let it go so God can then take it and work on it. Up until then, it has been weighing on my mind, pressing on my own heart, and pending within my spirit.

Making that decision means being able to release it to God to be made manifest. Making that decision means that I have gained inner peace from the struggle of holding onto that choice. Making that decision is also about loving yourself enough to free yourself from those inner struggles and releasing them to a power greater than ourselves.

Just for today, take the leap, make the decision, let go and let God. Then, you will have inner peace.

Coach Carolyn

10 November 2009

The Fear of Decision

"People who make decisions go to the top. Those who fail to make decisions go nowhere." ~ Bob Proctor

Most people fail to make decisions out of fear. Fear of failure, fear of success, fear of the unknown. When we make the decision, it is coming out of a place of inspiration, in Spirit. In the spirit realm, there is no failure, no limitations, no fear. So, where is the fear really coming from? Perhaps we will succeed beyond our wildest dreams. And yes, we may just get the fill-in-the-blank that we have been desiring.

Remember what Marianne Williamson said? That our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, but that we are powerful beyond measure. Yes, this is a bit scary to wrap our brains around, especially if we have had years and years of someone telling us that we weren’t good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, this, that, and the other thing enough.

I have a question for you. Let’s suppose it was, or is, your mother who told you, or continues to tell you, these limiting beliefs about yourself. Now, remember back. Your mother told you lots of things; especially what not to do and who not to hang around with. Are you remembering? Good. Some of what she told you, you bought into and some you didn’t. Some you believed and some you didn’t. Some you chose to make your story and some you chose to ignore. What was the difference?

Just for today, ponder the difference. Make the decision. Take a leap of faith and do it afraid.

Coach Carolyn

09 November 2009

The Power of Decision

"Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen." ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

"Nothing is more difficult, and therefore more precious, than to be able to decide." ~ Napoleon Bonaparte

From Merriam-Webster's Online Dictionary: a decision is a determination arrived at after consideration.

We have been given the incredible power to choose, to make a decision. The main reason we are living lives that are not satisfactory, is because we have not decided what kind of lives we desire.

Don't focus on "how" is this going to happen. Just do your part: make the decision. Once you make the decision as to what you want to be, do and have, the "how" will show up. Like Emerson said, once you make the decision, the universe will conspire to make it happen.

"A decision is what a man makes when he can't find anybody to serve on a committee." ~ Fletcher Knebel

06 November 2009

Friday's Purposeful Question

“…Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves like locked rooms and like books that are written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions now." ~ Rainer Maria Rilke

“What is the benefit for you to have your stress or struggle?”

“Your soul will always call the answer to you when you are ready for it.”

Coach Carolyn

05 November 2009

Always Do Your Best

“Death is not the biggest fear we have; our biggest fear is taking the risk to be alive – the risk to be alive and express what we really are.” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz

Are you really living life? Or are you operating in default? Are you living your life on autopilot?

Unfortunately, most of us will die with our music still within us. The cemetery is full of unlived dreams and untapped potential. We do not live out our dreams because we have more faith in our fears than in our dreams. We need to step out in faith and do it afraid. Don Miguel’s fourth agreement is “Always Do Your Best.” When you live out your dreams and passions, you will do what comes straight from your heart, and you will do it the best you can. When you live out your passions, you never have to think about whether or not you are doing your best – you just are.

Notice when you are doing something that lights you up, there is no fear present. There is just your passion and your authentic being. Simply do your best and your fears will take a hike!

Coach Carolyn

04 November 2009

Peace Is An Inside Job

“There is a criterion by which you can judge whether the thoughts you are thinking and the things you are doing are right for you. The criterion is: Have they brought you inner peace? If they have not, there is something wrong with them -- so keep seeking! If what you do has brought you inner peace, stay with what you believe is right." ~ Peace Pilgrim

Your body and your feelings are never wrong. If your results are not what you desire, check your feelings. After checking your feelings, ask yourself what are you thinking? Because it is your thoughts that are driving your feelings. We tend to think it is some outside force that is making us feel the way we do. It is not something outside of you, but something within you that is causing you to feel the way you do.

Peace is an inside job. If you want to manifest peace within, you must not allow what goes on outside of you to infect you. Remember, it is none of your business what other people do to you or say about you. It’s not about you.

Coach Carolyn

03 November 2009

Words of Wisdom

"We have committed the Golden Rule to memory; let us now commit it to life." ~ Edwin Markham

“Never make the same mistake twice, or you'll never get around to all of them." ~ Unknown

"When you talk, you repeat what you already know; when you listen, you often learn something." ~ Jared Sparks

"When they discover the center of the universe, a lot of people will be disappointed to discover that they are not it." ~ Bernard Bailey

Just for today, journal on these words of wisdom. See what comes up for you.

Coach Carolyn

02 November 2009

Take Responsibility for Your Life

"If your everyday life seems poor, don't blame it; blame yourself; admit to yourself that you are not enough of a poet to call forth its riches; because for the creator there is no poverty and no indifferent place." ~ Rainer Maria Rilke

You have heard it said that when you point the finger of blame, there are three fingers pointing right back at you. It is so easy to blame our circumstances and external events when things in our lives just aren’t going well. It is the fault of the economy, the government, my boss, my spouse, my Golden Retriever, the list goes on. Yet, there is one person we seem to leave off that list; and all you need do is look in the mirror. Now, unless you are a vampire, you will be looking at yourself.

It is your choices that have created the situations you are dealing with in your life. I know we don’t like to hear this, because it was someone else’s doings and undoings that created this situation. That may be the case, but you still made the choice to become involved. We do have choice. We do not have to show up to every argument, drama or negativity that we are invited to. The invitations on those are flowing. Sometimes it’s okay to just stay home.

You have the power to choose… choose wisely!
Coach Carolyn

01 November 2009

What Are You Focused On?

Now that Halloween is over, it’s time to see those Christmas decorations go up. Retailers will begin the holiday shopping season with Black Friday 2009 Online Deals. As a matter of fact, some have begun already. The day after Thanksgiving, known as Black Friday, is the busiest shopping day of the year. This is the day when folks want to catch those sales. Some have even taken to spending the night before outside the stores waiting for them to open the next morning. Amazing what we tend to focus on. It is said that what we focus on, expands. Hummm….

Personally, I prefer to shop online. I am not one for crowds, noise, or the madness of shopping. I have created for myself a life of ease and peace. Online shopping works well in that plan. What I focus my mind on is a life that is easy and relaxed, not hurried or stressed. Of course, we must shop. But we can control how our shopping will be. Now, I know that some people like the stress of last minute shopping or battling for that last item. I dare say some folks are hard up for excitement. Lazily shopping online is enough excitement for me, thank you!

Remember, where we have choice in our lives, it is a good idea to exercise that choice. We have the amazing power to choose and we tend to let that power slip away. Shopping is something that must get done, whatever we are shopping for. So why not shop more consciously? Because I leisurely shop online, I know I will get whatever I need without the drama.

Create less drama in your life… focus on ease,
Coach Carolyn