Victim? You Choose!

"We focus on the negatives, losing ourselves in the ‘problem.’ We point to our unhappy circumstances to rationalize our negative feelings. This is the easy way out. It takes, after all, very little effort to feel victimized." ~ Elizabeth Kubler-Ross 

 

 No one can make us a victim unless we sign up for it. There are no victims, only volunteers. Our thoughts and our feelings are within our control. We may not have control over our circumstances; that is why they are none of our business. What is our business is what we do have control over. 

Author and teacher Byron Katie says there are three kinds of business: our business, other people's business and God's business. Part of our struggle is confusing whose business is whose. It is time to stop confusing our business with other people's business and God's business. The moment we stick to working on our own business, the struggle will cease and we will no longer subject ourselves to being victims. 

It does take more effort to mind your own business, but once you get the hang of it, it is a cinch!

Coach Carolyn

Change Begins With Choice

I received this from one of my spiritual mentors and I thought it a wonderful message to begin the new week of a new month! This article is by Jim Rohn. Enjoy!

Any day we wish; we can discipline ourselves to change it all. Any day we wish; we can open the book that will open our mind to new knowledge. Any day we wish; we can start a new activity. Any day we wish; we can start the process of life change. We can do it immediately, or next week, or next month, or next year.

We can also do nothing. We can pretend rather than perform. And if the idea of having to change ourselves makes us uncomfortable, we can remain as we are. We can choose rest over labor, entertainment over education, delusion over truth, and doubt over confidence. The choices are ours to make. But while we curse the effect, we continue to nourish the cause. As Shakespeare uniquely observed, "The fault is not in the stars, but in ourselves." We created our circumstances by our past choices. We have both the ability and the responsibility to make better choices beginning today. Those who are in search of the good life do not need more answers or more time to think things over to reach better conclusions. They need the truth. They need the whole truth. And they need nothing but the truth.

We cannot allow our errors in judgment, repeated every day, to lead us down the wrong path. We must keep coming back to those basics that make the biggest difference in how our life works out. And then we must make the very choices that will bring life, happiness and joy into our daily lives. And if I may be so bold to offer my last piece of advice for someone seeking and needing to make changes in their life - If you don't like how things are, change it! You're not a tree. You have the ability to totally transform every area in your life - and it all begins with your very own power of choice.

To your prosperous life!
Coach Carolyn