Nutritious vs. Toxic Friends

“The people we are in relationship with are always a mirror, reflecting our own beliefs, and simultaneously we are mirrors reflecting their beliefs. So relationship is one of the most powerful tools for growth... if we look honestly at our relationships we can see so much about how we have created them.” ~ Shakti Gawain

Who are you hanging out with? Are you spending most of your time around nutritious people? Or toxic people?

Remember, you are the average of your five closest friends. Think about who those five friends are. Do you find yourself complaining about them more and more as time goes on? When you leave their company do you feel challenged, rejuvenated and encouraged? Or, do you feel drained and discouraged?

Have you stopped to ask yourself about your close relationships?

If you are tolerating toxic people, then it will reflect in your life.

If I gave you a beautiful bottle, I am sure you would take it. If I told you that bottle contains a deadly poison, you would think twice about taking it. Yet, this is exactly what you are doing when you associate with toxic people. You are not only taking the bottle, but you are ingesting the poison!

On the same coin – are you a nutritious friend to someone else? Or, are you someone other people would not want to be around? This goes both ways. Remember, when we point the finger, we have three more pointing right back at ourselves.

Just for today, take a serious inventory of your closest relationships. It may be time to do some spring cleaning.

Practice Telling Your New Story

“Start telling a better-feeling story about the things that are important to you. Do not write your story like a factual documentary, weighing all the pros and cons of your experience, but instead tell the uplifting, fanciful, magical story of the wonder of your own life and watch what happens. It will feel like magic as your life begins to transform right before yours eyes, but it is not by magic. It is by the power of the Laws of the Universe and your deliberate alignment with those Laws.” ~ Abraham

Okay, to the ladies who have been journeying with me the past few months, this should sound extremely familiar! You have written your new stories. Are you telling those new stories to yourself and everyone you meet? Or, are you still telling the same old story that absolutely does not serve you anymore?

Even if you have to take it a piece at a time: start with telling something new about your spiritual practices – how great you feel when you do your gratitude and manifestation lists, and how you can see the transformative effects it is having in your life. Get the picture? You don’t have to start out telling some long, drawn out brand new story. Probably you don’t even believe it all yet. Just start small. Remember, it is about baby steps.

Just for today, tell one piece of your new story. Pick your favorite piece and practice by telling that piece to one nutritious friend; not a naysayer! Then continue having a conversation about it, as if it’s really real! You will be amazed at how it makes you feel and it will boost your level of self esteem as well.

Practice telling your new story.
Coach Carolyn