Are You Playing the Blame Game?

Do you ever play the blame game? I cannot state enough how truly damaging this behavior can be. It absolutely keeps you living a small, sad existence and you will never show up as the divine bright light you truly are.

“All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration. You may succeed in making another feel guilty about something by blaming him, but you won't succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy.” ~ Dr. Wayne Dyer

Wikipedia defines blame as: the act of censuring, holding responsible, making negative statements about an individual or group that their action or actions are socially or morally irresponsible, the opposite of praise.

Yes, we have all had something done to us or against us. As children, we were victims of our circumstances because we were not in control of our choices or our lives. Today, as mature adults, we do have control over the choices we make and I am here to tell you that everything is a choice. Even when you choose not to make a choice – it is still a choice!

I do not say condone or ignore poor or inappropriate behavior, but anything done to you was done in the past. You must forgive the past and move on; or you will never live a happy and peaceful present or future.

When you continue to blame someone or something outside of yourself, you are essentially giving away your power; which renders you powerless. Being powerless keeps you stuck in the role of victim; and in the grand scheme of life, there are no victims, only volunteers. When you continue to cast blame on something or someone outside of yourself, you are in essence signing up to be victim – that is the choice you are making; albeit an unconscious choice.

So, just for today, STOP, TAKE A BREATH, and ASK:

• What was my part in this situation?
• For what purpose have I attracted it into my life? (Remember, it takes two to tango!)
• What are the lessons and the blessings in this situation?

What Are You Choosing?

"I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn't arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I'm going to be happy in it." ~ Groucho Marx

Circumstances will happen in life. Some we may have had a hand in, others not. The past is the past and we cannot change or control it. We must simply accept it as the past, take the lesson and move on. It does no good to dwell on the past or on events we have no control over.
When we can see every event or situation as a learning experience, then we will not live our lives in victim-mode. That too is a choice – there are no victims, only volunteers. So, which are you choosing to be?

"Being miserable is a habit. Being happy is a habit. The choice is yours." ~ Tom Hopkins

Choose wisely,
Coach Carolyn