10-10-10 Life Lessons from Don Miguel Ruiz

I am wrapping up my week of 10-10-10 Top Ten's. It has been a pleasure sharing my special top ten secrets to manifesting the life of my dreams.

“You need a very strong will in order to adopt these agreements, but if you can begin to live your life with these agreements, the transformation in your life will be amazing. You will see the drama of hell disappear right before your very eyes.” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz

Today’s Top Ten: 10 Life Lessons from Don Miguel Ruiz

1. Make and Keep Your Agreements – not just with others, but especially with yourself. Keeping your agreements builds integrity and character. When you break agreements with others, people tend not to trust you. When you break agreements with yourself, you stop trusting yourself – which leads to a life of fear and doubt.

2. Be Impeccable With Your Word. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

3. Don't Take Anything Personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.

4. Don't Make Assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

5. Always Do Your Best. Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.

6. Be Skeptical, But Learn To Listen. Don’t believe yourself or anybody else. Use the power of doubt to question everything you hear: Is it really the truth? Listen to the intent behind words, and you will understand the real message.

7. Every Action Has a Reaction. Perhaps you cannot see the action or the choice you made, but you will always see the reaction, the result of what you do. Choose your actions wisely.

8. Direct Your Own Drama. Imagine yourself as the director of the drama that is your life. You have the power to direct all the actors and their actions in any way you choose.

9. Practice Detachment to Allow Change. Look at your physical body and just imagine how you used to look when you were five years old compared with now. It is still you, but the body is completely different. It has changed. Everything must go through its own transformation and change. Allow the process.

10. Remember and Repeat! You must continue to take consistent action and practice these agreements; the transformation doesn’t just happen until you work the process.

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Make New Year Agreements

As we begin a brand new year, time to make new agreements with yourself. I can think of no better agreements to start with than The Four Agreements of Don Miguel Ruiz.

Be Impeccable With Your Word
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

Don’t Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

Don’t Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.

Think about what agreements you are making with yourself; and the agreements you make with those in your inner circle.

To your success,

Coach Carolyn

Honor Yourself by Honoring Your Agreements

How many times did you take something personally today? How many times did you hear something and whether it did or not, you attached your name to it?

Well, forgive yourself, let it go, and move on. Stop taking things personally. Nothing is about you… except you.

Enough said.

Coach Carolyn

Make New Agreements

"The Four Agreements are a tool for transformation, leading you to stop judging, mainly yourself, and to start practicing another way of life. They lead you to stop the guilt, the shame, and the self-rejection; they help you break the agreements that limit the expression of your creativity, and replace them with new agreements that facilitate the expression of your love.” ~ From The Four Agreements Companion Book by Don Miguel Ruiz

Isn’t it time to break those old agreements that you have had since childhood and no longer serve you? We listen to the same old tapes and replay them over and over in our minds all the while desiring something new. Well it isn’t going to work for you. Until you can get your conscious and subconscious minds to agree and align with your desires, you will continue to get more of what you have already been getting. Remember, the definition of insanity? Doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result each time.

The Four Agreementswill help you to break the old agreements, creating new agreements that will penetrate your belief system, thus aligning with your desires. I have been a student of the Four Agreements for years and I must say that they have changed my life; and I had some serious baggage. With consistent use, you would be amazed at how your life can change.

So, just for today, decide to make some new agreements with and for yourself. You, and your loved ones, will be so glad you did!

Coach Carolyn

Making Agreements ~ A Question

Greetings Purposeful Divas and Divos!

Just wanted to share an email I received concerning making, breaking and negotiating agreements. I believe it can benefit other women as well.
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Thanks so much for sending this recap. It is extremely useful and full of wonderful ideas. I wish I was not out of town and could have attended.

If someone breaks an agreement with you...say a lover who cheats on you...what could one say to share ones feelings in an adult, honest, loving way and not angry and then renegotiate a new agreement?

Much appreciation and gratitude for your insights.

Marlene
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Marlene,

Your question is a good one and one that I am sure lots of people are dealing with. When we speak of making agreements, we also mean making agreements with ourselves; all this comes down to trust.

Do you trust yourself enough to make and re-negotiate an agreement? If not, how can you trust another? We expect significant others to do for us what we will not do for ourselves.

Did you make an agreement with the other person? I don't mean a hap-hazard sort of agreement, but a real agreement with clarifying statements?

In re-negotiating an agreement, we must do the truth in love. State exactly what you are feeling about the broken agreement. State facts.

"When you did ______, I felt ______. The impact that had on me was ____. My request is ______."

No angry words, no emotional outbursts. Just state the facts. Then re-negotiate as you feel comfortable. The re-negotiation process is unique to each situation. What does your gut/intuition tell you? Are you able to trust the person again in order to make a new agreement.

Infidelity is a difficult case. Discern carefully and take your time. This is your life. Only you must live it.

Agree with a purpose!
Coach Carolyn

Are You Speaking Your Truth?

This month’s Becoming a Woman of Purpose Meetup Gatherings are focused on The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. I have always stated if everyone on the planet would read this book, this world would be very different. For myself, having embraced the agreements, my life is considerably calmer, more peaceful and more purposeful.

The first agreement is Be Impeccable With Your Word. Remember the time when a person’s word was their bond? What happened to those days? Today, even if it is written in blood, there can still be disputes and lawsuits.

Don Miguel simply says to speak your word with integrity; if you say it, mean it. Also, avoid using the word against yourself and others; steer clear of using the word for malicious intent. Remember our mothers saying, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all!” This still applies. Unfortunately, it isn’t enforced.

Just for today, speak your word with conscious awareness. Don’t simply speak to fill up space. Only speak if it is an improvement to silence.

Words can harm and words can heal. Choose wisely.

Coach Carolyn