21 September 2008

What’s Holding You Back?

When we are stuck or in a state of uncertainty, it is difficult to move forward on our dreams and intentions. We are inclined to stay in that state of uncertainty instead of moving forward to a place of unknown. Yet, when we think about it, every move forward is a move into the unknown. We take the risk when we are certain that it will benefit us, or if it is a life and death situation; for example, staying in a passionless job because you are afraid of not being able to pay the bills. We resign ourselves to a life of drudgery instead of trusting the process and ourselves and taking a leap of faith.

Our last Becoming a Woman of Purpose Gathering was about those things that hold us back. The most common reason is fear. I believe fear is a catch all phrase for us not knowing and trusting ourselves and the process. If we can truly trust in ourselves, knowing who we are, it is less difficult to take that leap. I still ask the ladies, “Who are you?” and with the exception of my most diligent members (shout out to my girl Jennifer, woot!), no one can fully answer the question. Why is this? Because it is easier to stay stuck, not taking full responsibility for one’s life, than to make decisions that might get you what you want, or might get you evicted. I am by no means saying to make these decisions without proper planning. This planning is all part of the process called life. It pains me that so many women are not in touch with who they really are and what they truly want out of life. Oh yes, we know what we don’t want, but what do we want? Can we name it? Can we allow it once it shows up?

Stopping is a spiritual action

This can be a sticking point for some people, because stopping may seem like resigning or being lazy. This is far from the truth. There is stopping actions all throughout our lives, for a reason. We stop at red lights in order to allow someone else to move. Yet, when we are stopped at a red light, we tap our feet anxiously wanting the light to hurry up and change so we can move on. Move on to what? Just move! Stopping allows us to read the signs of the times, within our own lives and intentions. How can we know what we truly want if we do not take a moment to stop and ask ourselves? Then, if we keep moving like the hamster on the treadmill, and the thing we want shows up, will we stop long enough to allow and receive it? I say we do not and we miss the opportunity.

Once we take the time to stop, we ask ourselves what do we want and when do we want it? Do not worry about how we get it, that part is none of our business. Our part is to just show up in a state of allowing and receiving. We ask for what we want, then promptly negate the request. For example, we may want a new home. Yet, we say but I cannot afford it, the market is bad for buyers, how will I make the payments, on and on and on. Just state the intention, and then allow it to come. You cannot state an intention when you don’t know what the intention is. Stop and ask the questions. Some questions to consider:

Where am I in my life right now?
Where do I want to be right now?
What is the gap between the two?
What do I need to do to bridge that gap?

Also, remain in a state of gratitude. When we are grateful, we are not in a negative place. Remember, love and fear cannot co-exist. When we are in one state, we cannot be in the other. Which state are you choosing? And remember, it is your choice.

Live your life on purpose!
Coach Carolyn

3 comments:

Angela Chen Shui, "The Soul Alignment Coach" said...

Thank you so much for this, Carolyn!

That 'Who am I' question is the most important and life changing question there is. No matter where we are, if we keep asking and answering this from our deepest level of truth throughout our life, we cannot help but fulfill our Soul's life purpose.

Also, Stopping is another great activity that provides expanding benefits when indulged in consistently. Daily is preferred. Those days that I don't 'Stop' to deep breathe, Be with myself, connect deeply to what I'm choosing to create, are days that feel lagging, like I'm missing something.

Blessings for who you are Being and Thank You again,


Angela

http://www.SoulSelfHelp.com/index4.html

Angela Chen Shui, "The Soul Alignment Coach" said...

Thank you so much for this, Carolyn!

That 'Who am I' question is the most important and life changing question there is. No matter where we are, if we keep asking and answering this from our deepest level of truth throughout our life, we cannot help but fulfill our Soul's life purpose.

Also, Stopping is another great activity that provides expanding benefits when indulged in consistently. Daily is preferred. Those days that I don't 'Stop' to deep breathe, Be with myself, connect deeply to what I'm choosing to create, are days that feel lagging, like I'm missing something.

Blessings for who you are Being and Thank You again,


Angela

http://www.SoulSelfHelp.com/index4.html

Carolyn D. Townes, SFO said...

Thanks Angela so much for your comments. As Oprah has stated, it would be wonderful if everyone would stop for just five minutes each day to breathe and be. The world would be a very different place.

Peace and blessings to you.