Listening is a skill and an art; unfortunately, a lost art. Most people are not taught how to listen properly. You do not merely listen with your ears, but with your whole body – especially your heart.
When I deeply and actively listen to someone, I am drained at the end because listening is something you do with your whole being. Listening is not waiting for your turn to speak or rehearsing your next rebuttal. Active listening involves being fully present for the other person.
Miguel Ruiz’ Fifth Agreement is Be Skeptical, But Learn To Listen. He says, don’t believe yourself or anybody else. Use the power of doubt to question everything you hear: Is it really the truth? Listen to the intent behind words, and you will understand the real message.
In order to understand the real message, you must really listen. You must listen until it drains you.
“Our listening creates a sanctuary for the homeless parts within another person.” ~ Rachel Naomi Remen