18 November 2009

True Forgiveness Leads to Inner Peace

"Inner peace can be reached only when we practice forgiveness. Forgiveness is letting go of the past, and is therefore the means for correcting our misperceptions." ~ Gerald Jampolsky

Forgiveness is not an emotion, it is a decision.

Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself. It is not something you do for someone else.

Forgiveness is an act of the imagination. It dares you to imagine a better future, one that is based on the blessed possibility that your hurt will not be the final word on the matter.

It challenges you to give up your destructive thoughts about the situation and to believe in the possibility of a better future. Forgiveness has little or nothing to do with another person because forgiveness is an inside job.

Forgiveness is not forgetting. It is letting go of the hurt.

True forgiveness is not:
Forgetting. If the hurt wounded you enough to require forgiveness, you may always have a memory of it.
Excusing or condoning. The wrong should not be denied, minimized, or justified.
Reconciling. You can forgive the offender and still choose not to reestablish the relationship.
Weakness. You do not become a doormat or oblivious to cruelty.

“Never forget that to forgive yourself is to release trapped energy that could be doing good work in the world.” ~ D. Patrick Miller

Give yourself the gift of inner peace, forgive someone.

Coach Carolyn

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