Friday’s Purposeful Question

“Live your questions now, and perhaps even without knowing it, you will live along some distant day into your answers.” ~ Rainer Maria Rilke

“Who are you when no one is watching?”

“I never learn anything talking. I only learn things when I ask questions.” ~ Lou Holtz

Have a fantabulous weekend!
Coach Carolyn

Be the Best YOU!

“When everybody tells you that you are being idealistic or impractical, consider the possibility that everybody could be wrong about what is right for you.” ~ Gilbert Kaplan

This speaks directly to the fourth agreement: Always Do Your Best

I believe that we all strive to do the best that we know how to do and be the best that we can be. It would never serve you or anyone to wake up in the morning and say, “Now how can I absolutely screw up and be the worst me I can be!”

I may not know you personally, but I can guess you don’t say this. Especially if you are reading this blog, I can guess that you strive to be your bestest. Never settle for less than your best.

You are a child of the Divine – be that!

Coach Carolyn

The Possibility for Peace

Novelist and poet Christopher Morley once said, "When you give someone a book, you don't give them just paper, ink, and glue. You give them the possibility of a whole new life."

One of the possibilities is the possibility of inner peace. Not only can a book transport a person to a far off land, to another time, a different space, but it can also give the gift of inner peace – a respite from the harried and hurried life they are all too familiar with.

When you need to give a gift and have no idea what to give – give the gift of inner peace. Give a gift certificate to a favorite bookstore or to Amazon.com. It’s the kind of gift that will forever be appreciated and cherished.

Give the gift of peace,
Coach Carolyn

Express Your Divine Desires

“If you knew everything was really all right, and that it always has a happy ending, then you would not feel trepidacious about your future. Everything is really so very all right! If you could believe and trust that, then, immediately everything would automatically and instantly become all right.” ~ Abraham

If you had no fear, what would you accomplish?

STOP, TAKE A BREATH, and ASK yourself this question. Most of us operate out of a sense of fear instead of a sense of faith, love and trust.

You never worry about the air around you running out – so you have to run outside and breathe as much of it as possible. You have faith and trust that wherever you go, there is enough air for you to breathe.

Think about your true desires and dreams. If they are truly your dreams and not the dreams of your parents, your cultural tribe or your teachers, then the way to make those dreams reality right there beside those dreams. The answers are always in the same room with the questions.

All divine desires are given divine expressions. That is your task. This is where you take the inspired action to make those dreams and divine desires a reality. When you come from a place of pure divinity, fear does not exist.

Leap. The net will appear.
Coach Carolyn

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Being Our Own Role Models

I got this from the Daily OM; and I thought it was appropriate for our community of purposeful women. Enjoy!

There was a time where women stood together in a bond of sisterhood, women supporting women.

As women embrace the fullness of who they are as individuals, they may find themselves supporting other women, helping others to reach the level of inner comfort and outer freedom that they themselves have found. Among those who are less sure of themselves and their place in the world, it may be more common to criticize other women than to seek their help. But there are things that a woman can only learn from another woman, as there are things about being a man that can only be learned from other men. We all recognize that we have much to learn from each other regardless of gender, but sometimes we could use a supportive role model that gives us a more precise example of what and who we can become.

There was a time where women stood together in a bond of sisterhood, women supporting women. It is only natural that the pendulum swings out of balance for a while so that we may have the experience of what we do not want. It is up to women to bring the pendulum back into balance and bring back the sacred sisterhood we yearn for at our core.

If we envision a world where women support each other and help each other find their place in an ever-changing world, then we can become the change we want to see. Jealousy, envy, criticism, and judgment are refuges for the insecure. As we help others to become self-assured, we create a world in which all people help each other, regardless of gender. Only women can make the change in how women are seen and understood, not just by other women but by the world at large. The way we speak about each other to other women and to the men in our lives informs everyone to treat us with the respect that all women, and all people, deserve.

If we do not stand together, we will surely fall apart! Support your sisters.

Coach Carolyn

Friday’s Purposeful Question

“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions.” ~ Rainer Maria Rilke

“What questions are you wrestling with right now?”

"It is not the answer that enlightens, but the question." ~ Decouvertes

Have an awesome weekend!
Coach Carolyn

Create Today

Every morning you wake up, you have a beautiful blank canvas before you on which to create your day.

What do you choose to paint, write, sculpt, or handcraft?

You have the power to create your day, which creates your life. Your life is made up of days. So, take it one day at a time. Don’t get overwhelmed by next month, or the next six months, or the next twelve months. You only have right now, this moment. How are you going to live that?

So, just for today, just create today.

Coach Carolyn

Be Still and Be Peace

"The first peace, which is the most important, is that which comes within the souls of people when they realize their relationship, their oneness with the universe and all its powers, and when they realize that at the center of the universe dwells the Great Spirit, and that this center is really everywhere, it is within each of us." ~ Black Elk

When you can be peace, then there is some peace in the world. More importantly, there is some peace within your immediate world. This is good news. You have within you the power to manifest peace. I hear so much about trying to find peace, seeking peace, looking outside of ourselves for the peace that is closer than our breath.

I am often reminded of the words of the Psalmist that says, “Be still and know that I am God.” This is the peace that has been born within you, the peace that lights your world when it is so dark all around you.

Just for today, don’t look for peace outside of yourself. Simply STOP, TAKE A BREATH, and be peace. And then you will be.

I choose peace instead of this.

Coach Carolyn

Are You Being Fearful?

“Fear makes strangers of people who would be friends.” ~ Shirley Maclaine

The one insidious thing about fear is that it steals your true identity.

When you are in a state of fear, you do not think, behave or speak as you would when you are not afraid. You become a lesser version of yourself. Your authentic self becomes buried beneath the fear and cowering. This, in turn, has the ripple effect. Your are not your real self to people who would become friends. You show up as the lesser you. So if you are wondering why your relationships are not what they ought, think about how you are “being.”

Are you being fearful?

Because if you are, then you need to know that fear will not allow you to have healthy, long-lasting relationships. Your relationships may last long, but I can bet you they are not healthy and filled with peaceful exchanges. They are not nutritious. Look at your relationships – familial, work, social and otherwise. How would you diagnose them? Healthy or sick?

Remember, you are the common denominator of those relationships; so if they are not healthy, guess what?

"To conquer fear is the beginning of wisdom." ~ Bertrand Russell

Coach Carolyn

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Choose Wisely!

"It is our choices that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities." ~ J. K. Rowling

Choice is one of the most powerful gifts available to us. We have the power to choose to see the good in others; to be kind, compassionate and loving and we have the power to choose to be resentful, bitter and hard to get along with. But before you can make that conscious choice, you must be mindful. As we move through our days we make many choices we may not be fully aware of. From the way we speak to loved ones, to how we behave in traffic or to a work colleague, we must consciously choose our actions and behaviors. Pay attention to the choices you make today.

So, just for today, STOP, TAKE A BREATH, and ASK: 

“Am I making a wise and conscious choice right now?”

For every action, there is a reaction. Choose wisely.

Coach Carolyn

Friday's Purposeful Question

“Live your questions now, and perhaps even without knowing it, you will live along some distant day into your answers.” ~ Rainer Maria Rilke

“What are you seeking to become?”

“I never learn anything talking. I only learn things when I ask questions.” ~ Lou Holtz

Have a lovely weekend!
Coach Carolyn

Honor Yourself and Do Your Best

Always Do Your Best: Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret. ~ The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

This is my favorite agreement… this week! I have begin the process of creating new online businesses and I said to myself that I will simply do the best that I can. We make agreements all the time – with others and with ourselves. More often than not, we do not honor the agreements we make to ourselves. We would feel mortified if we broke an agreement or an appointment with someone else. Yet, we feel it is okay to break agreements and appointments with ourselves. Are we not as important? We send the message that we are not.

Another agreement I made with myself is to be consistent with my spiritual practices and daily routines that will get me closer to my desires and intentions. If I am not consistent, then I will get what I have always gotten – nothing! I truly see and even feel the difference in being consistent. I have been consistent in doing those things that have created the habits I don’t want. Now it’s time to replace those non-serving habits with nutritious habits that will serve me and bring me closer to my intentions and dreams.

I love that Don Miguel states your best will change from moment to moment, because we all change and shift as well and our best must shift with us. But whatever shifts we are going through, always do your best.

Just for today, do your best!
Coach Carolyn

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Peace Is In the Present Moment

"Life is available only in the present. That is why we should walk in such a way that every step can bring us to the here and the now." ~ Thich Nhat Hanh

Fear, anxiety, and anger all live outside of the present moment. When we live outside of the present moment, we are not living in peace, nor can we manifest it.

When you are dealing with one or more of the unsettling emotions, think about what you are thinking about and promptly reach for a new thought. Purposefully and deliberately bring your mind back to the present moment and soon you will find your unsettling feelings dissipating. 

Just for today, think in the NOW!

Coach Carolyn

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Feel the Fear and Launch!

"Over the years I’ve realized that when we define ourselves through one thing, we risk being disappointed by unmet expectations. Whether it’s your business, your marriage, your children or your exercise regimen, associating your identity too deeply with one aspect of your life can lead to a true identity crisis and result in unhappiness.

"In fact experts say that the more diverse and varied our interests and passions are, the happier we become, citing examples of happy people who have many facets to their lives. When I first started Ladies Who Launch, like many passionate new launchers, I deeply associated myself with its mission, the brand and the evolving community. However there were times when my enthusiasm backfired, causing me to be discouraged at the twists and turns in the road.

"Feeling discouraged is a negative energy drain and can start a downward spiral leading to bad choices and less than desirable results. Although hindsight is 20/20, if I could give any budding entrepreneur advice today, I’d say, cultivate and give equal attention to all aspects of your life that create positive energy feelings for you. When one thing is in turmoil, the others balance it out, giving you just the boost you need to handle tough times optimally."

From Victoria's Daily Launch Tip of Ladies Who Launch

Here's to the Ladies Who Launch!
Coach Carolyn



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I Think...Therefore, I AM!

“Cherish your visions. Cherish your ideals. Cherish the music that stirs in your heart, the beauty that forms in your mind, the loveliness that drapes your purest thoughts, for out of them will grow all delightful conditions, all heavenly environment, of these, if you but remain true to them your world will at last be built.” ~ James Allen

You literally become what you think about. So if you are thinking about bills, debt, broken relationships, and bad economies – then guess what you are getting? Exactly! More of the same.

Just for today, think about your dreams, your visions, your creativity. Think about you being a powerful creator and can manifest anything you want to show up in your life. And guess what you will get? Yes, more of the same!

Dream your life into existence!

Coach Carolyn

Friday’s Purposeful Question

“Live your questions now, and perhaps even without knowing it, you will live along some distant day into your answers.” ~ Rainer Maria Rilke

"It is only possible to live happily ever after on a daily basis." ~ Margaret Bonanno

"The pleasure which we most rarely experience gives us greatest delight." ~ Epictetus

"I wake up every morning with a great desire to live joyfully." ~ Anna Howard Shaw

“Are you living a happy life?” Why or why not?

If you are not, all you need to do is make the decision that you want to live a happy life – then go live it!

Have a fantastically happy weekend!

Coach Carolyn

Communicate, Don’t Assume

The Third Agreement: Don’t Make Assumptions

I used to joke that the only exercise I ever got was jumping to conclusions! And man, was I good at it!

When you don’t ask specific questions, then you have to assume your own answers and this, more often than not, leads to trouble. Why do we tend not to ask a simple question, yet would rather stew in our own misery of assumptions and bad guesses?

Just for today, don’t assume. You know what you get when you assume? Uh-huh!

STOP, TAKE A BREATH, and ASK a question.

Coach Carolyn

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Thinking Your Way to Inner Peace

"When you question your stressful thoughts, the freedom that comes out of that graces the world for all of us." ~ Byron Katie

When you are not experiencing inner peace, one thing to do is STOP, TAKE A BREATH, and ASK:

“What am I thinking about at this moment?”

Chances are you are thinking something stressful or rehashing and regurgitating thoughts from of old. Take the time to check in with yourself; especially when you are not feeling at peace.

When you are not feeling that peace or serenity, you are not in the present moment. Stress, fear, anxiety are not present moment feelings. You are either in the past or in the future. And why? You cannot change anything that has happened in the past and you cannot control the future. Yes, you can plan, and you need to do that; but plan, visualize and work in this moment to do what you need to do to make those plans a reality.

Stay in the present moment to maintain your inner peace.
Coach Carolyn

Child-ish Thinking

This really got me thinking. And remember, we need to think new thoughts. Twelve-year-old child prodigy Adora Svitak does just that. Adora says the world needs "childish" thinking: bold ideas, wild creativity and especially optimism. Kids' big dreams deserve high expectations, she says, starting with grownups' willingness to learn from children as much as to teach. Listen to this grown up advise from a child's perspective.

Are you thinking?

Coach Carolyn

Feel Pure JOY!

“If your dominant intent is to feel joy while you are doing the work, your triad of intentions — freedom, growth and joy — will come quickly and easily into alignment. See your "career" as one of creating a joyful life experience. You are not a creator of things or a regurgitator of what someone else has created or a gatherer of stuff. You are a creator, and the subject of your creation is your joyful life experience. That is your mission. That is your quest. That is why you are here.” ~ Abraham

I love this! Your life purpose is an experience, not simply to toil or accumulate stuff. When you are experiencing joy and freedom and passion, your “work” falls in alignment with those feelings. Then, it does not feel like work or toil, but joy and you don’t know where the time goes.

You were created to inspire, dream, empower, love, ignite, or you fill in the blank. You are a creator and you can create anything you desire. So why don’t you? Fear. Simple as that.

So, just for today… dream BIG! What do you truly desire? Feel what it would be like to have. Continue that feeling for a solid 17 seconds. Then another… then another… then another. You have created 68 seconds of pure high vibrational thinking! That’s HUGE! Not negative thinking, or regurgitated thinking, but pure thinking!

While you are in this high vibrational space, be grateful and smile!

Coach Carolyn

Friday's Purposeful Question

“Live your questions now, and perhaps even without knowing it, you will live along some distant day into your answers.” ~ Rainer Maria Rilke

“What would your life look like if you had more self-esteem?”

“I never learn anything talking. I only learn things when I ask questions.” ~ Lou Holtz

Have an awesome weekend!

Coach Carolyn

The Greatest Failure

Debbi Fields of Mrs. Fields Cookies once said, "The important thing is not being afraid to take a chance. Remember, the greatest failure is to not try. Once you find something you love to do, be the best at doing it."

The Fourth Agreement: Always Do Your Best

It does not matter if you fail; there is no failure, only feedback. And the only one who can say you failed is you. But what happens if you never even try?

Just for today, take a chance and do your best.

Coach Carolyn