Make an agreement to "Don't Make Assumptions," and honor your agreement. When you are assuming, you are living in judgment. Instead of assuming and judging, simply ask a question. We make assumptions because we don't know the answer. What do we do if we don't know something? WE ASK!
Where did we lose that? Asking questions is one of the biggest keys to success. Again, we assume that someone will think we are stupid or not in the know. Well, who in the hell cares if you are not in the know? Someone who won't care anyway, and who may not know themselves? Stop worrying about what other people think of you. Because truthfully, what other people think of you is none of your business.
Suffering and struggling comes from resisting and not accepting what is. We cannot change what has happened, but we can change how we react and show up to what has happened. To help us make better choices, we must ask better questions.
Stop struggling. Stop resisting what is. Stop making assumptions. JUST STOP! Remember, stopping is a spiritual action.