25 June 2010

How Are You Feeling?

This week we looked at the thoughts that drive your emotions. You know, it is your own thoughts that drive your emotions, not the outside circumstances. Those outside events that happen, they do not cause you to feel a certain way; it is the way you interpret those events that cause you to feel what you feel. If you deem something as being very bad, you will feel bad about it. If you deem something as being unfair, then this will make you feel angry.

But what if… you do not attach any meaning to those outside events that happen in your world? Just, what if? Yes, we are meaning-making machines and we have to assign meaning to everything that happens in our external world. Yet, what if we simply chose not to? What if we said, “Oh, that thing happened; isn’t that interesting?” Then simply, let it go. Hard to fathom? I know.

Yet, this is the cause of all your suffering. You assign meaning to things that have  no meaning and have nothing to do with you. Even if it has your name all over it, it has nothing to do with you – unless you let it. You get fired? It’s not about you. You get dumped by the guy? It’s not about you. Stop making everything about you. I am sorry to tell you this but you are not the center of anyone’s universe except your own! Not everything is about you. Stop allowing it to be.

As for worrying about what other people might think – forget it. They aren't concerned about you. They're too busy worrying about what you and other people think of them.” ~ Michael le Boeuf 

Make it a blessed weekend!
Coach Carolyn

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